Reddit user throwawayfkedj found themselves between a rock and a hard place when they took their date to a high-end restaurant. They wanted to stick up for their date and make sure they had a wonderful evening, but afterwards they wondered if they took it too far. So throwawayfkedj took to Reddit to see if people thought their behavior was justified and if their waitress deserved her punishment.
“Wednesday night, I went on a first date with a woman (22F) that I met 6 months ago.
Words cannot describe how exhilarated I was for our date- I had spent the last six months talking to her before she finally agreed to go out to dinner with me.
I wanted everything to be perfect. My friend from college owns a series of high-end restaurants in South Beach area and he said he was sure his staff would do everything they can to make the evening perfect.”
Sounds like they felt a lot of pressure to make sure this evening was picture perfect. Nothing wrong with that, but wanting things to be perfect down to the last detail can ultimately ruin the whole night.
“My date doesn’t eat out a lot at high-end establishments so when we got there she said she couldn’t decide what to order. She told me she really liked anything with pasta but that she was craving something with asparagus.
I suggested a dish with rigatoni and lobster. The menu stated that there was also asparagus added.
When the dish comes and we start eating my date starts pouting in the middle of eating.
I ask what’s wrong and says she’s so disappointed because the asparagus came as if they were decorations and she said she felt cheated because they were already all gone.
There were definitely more asparagus in the dish as depicted in the picture in the menu on Yelp. I asked if she wanted me to handle it and she just shrugs kind of sullenly.”
Since they were the one that recommended the dish, I can understand why throwawayfkedj felt some responsibility with how their date liked her meal. Plus, she didn’t really give them a clear answer on how she wanted him to handle it, or if she even wanted them to handle it.
“So I call over the waitress and start telling her what’s wrong with the dish.
The waitress said something to the effect of ‘But there WAS asparagus in the dish we brought out, correct?’
My date showed her a picture she pulled up on Yelp of other people’s pictures of the dish and the waitress looked at it and said, ‘Yeah, sometimes there may be more that comes out with it.’
And then she asked if by any chance my date just happened to eat them all.
My date was immediately taken aback by the waitress’ implication that there was more than my girlfriend assumed there to be and she just didn’t notice.
My date looks upset and the waitress says she’ll take the dish back to the kitchen and hopefully make this up for us.
We get a plate back with more asparagus but my date was upset that the waitress basically gaslighted her and accused her of pigging out and lying about it.”
So the date had a bit of a sour note. Exactly what throwawayfkedj was trying to avoid. What do you think of the couples’ complaint? What about the waitress’ response? Do you think the waitress was intentionally implying that his date was “pigging out”?
“After I dropped my date off, I called my friend and when he asked how it went I told him that it was honestly horrible and that the waitress that served us was rude and accused my date of trying to scam her way into more asparagus when there were like four sticks of it on the dish and pretty much made my date almost cry.
My friend apologized and said that waitress was one of their newer hires, but they’ve been down in terms of business so he was looking at laying off some staff members.
I find out today that my friend ended up firing our waitress. My friend apologized again for my bad date and said it’s not my fault and he was looking at cutting staff anyway.
Am I the asshole?”
Woah. That’s quite that punishment. I can see why throwawayfkedj was having second thoughts. So what do you think? Who was in the wrong? Did the waitress handle this situation correctly? Or could she have gone about it better in order to avoid accidentally insulting the date? Should throwawayfkedj have even complained in the first place? Let us know!!