Could you imagine growing up knowing your parent was a
It’s Just A Lifestyle.
“My parents have owned their own amateur pornography company since 1999. They have been one of the leading producers for amateur porn in the adult entertainment industry. My father created the company, and with the help of my mom, built an extremely successful business. I remember when I was 10 years old we had to move cause of my parents work, but I didn’t find out what they did until I was about 14. They had bought a huge house and turned our finished basement into their office. Since then they have established partners from around the world. If you ever met my parents you would have no idea that they did this. But I remember when my mom would take my little sister and I on all day shopping trips, because my dad was at home directing a new movie. Yes, my house was used in the majority of the movies. No, my bedroom was never in any of the scenes. Yes I met a lot of the stars of the movies, one of them became close friends with my parents. She later did more executive work for the company, but she also would babysit my sister and I and we are still friends with her till today. My senior year of high school, my parents were contacted by the city newspaper to do an article because they had gotten a hint of what my parents did. My parents did an interview, and a well written article came out right before graduation. Surprisingly, everyone loved it! I remember my French teacher in high school giving me the biggest hug and just talking with me about it. I was worried at first, but people didn’t treat me differently and most people just wanted to tell me how cool it was. After that I wasn’t shy to tell people about it. It was a great conversation starter once I got into college. I joined a sorority, and I remember sitting in the living room at the house one day when I told a couple of the girls. I was telling them about how my mom and the girl working for my parents go to the annual AVN Awards in Las Vegas (which are the like the oscars for the adult industry). So we opened a lap top so I could show them the website and to my surprise saw my mother on the front page of the website for a new movie. The real kicker is that she did a girl on girl scene for that movie. I never brought that up with my parents, just tried to ignore it. The icing on the cake is I became a teaching assistant for the human sexuality teacher on campus, and since that year my parents have been guest speakers for the class when they get to the chapter on pornography. The first one, the class had no idea they were my parents until my dad decided to call me out in front of everyone, but hey no biggie. Anyways, my parents business is still doing great. My little sister has now become a co-owner of the company since my dad is close to retirement age, so she has taken over a majority of the graphic design as well as picking out content for the movies. When I go home to visit, conversation is normal, but if I go into the office I am never shocked when my sister asks me for font opinions for the new covers. The office now has a shelf of awards they have won, and they have all the XBIZ magazines highlighted with multiple of their titles in the top 100 each month. So yeah, that’s my story.” (Source)
A Tricky Relationship.
“My mother was a dominatrix professionally for many years. Sex therapist by day and domina by night. So maybe this is something similar? I did most of the chores in the house except laundry. I was not allowed in the basement for any reason. Of course that means I snuck down… Our basement was a dungeon. Poles, straps, things to straddle, walls of toys and tools…and the smell of incense and something else I didn’t know at the time. Sometimes my mother had clients when I would normally be home (she usually didn’t). We had a code. I would check the mail box. If there was an envelope with my name on it, it meant that it contained money and a time for me to return. I would take the money and go down the street to a bookshop where I would order a wrap and do my homework in their cafe. At the time I didn’t mind, but as I got older I realized it wasn’t really the best thing for me and that it wasn’t a safe solution. A few times she forgot to leave me an envelope and I walked into…sounds coming from the basement. Sometimes it wasn’t a client but rather just someone she wanted to bone. I have seen my mother bent over various pieces of furniture in our living room unfortunately when it just came to a walking into her general sex life. She’s also answered the door when I came home to see her in a harness or in her gear. I saw her naked often and she wasn’t shy about it. :/ I didn’t know what she did was weird, but only that I wasn’t meant to talk about it. Sometimes my afternoons were spend having a snack in a bookstore cafe and sometimes I was able to come right home when I got off the bus. I don’t know if it was entirely about money or if it was just something she loved doing. My mother was more down to earth with sex related things for a parent. She was very difficult in most other area of our life. I didn’t look down on her for doing this though. My relationship with my mother is complicated, but it is due to a number of other unrelated factors.” (Source)
Living A Double Life.
“My mother was never a porn star, but she was a popular dancer at a topless bar. This is going to sound backwards, but I was also raised “Christian” (more so by my dad, but she insisted we go to church and all that throughout). So, there was a lot of secrecy involved. My sister and I saw the hypocrisy in her double life and we lost a lot of respect for her. We still loved and supported her, because what else were we going to do… she’s our mother. Now, 15+ years later, I am heartbroken over it. My mother is one of the most insecure people I know. She is a 4 time divorcee, and continues to believe she needs to be supported by men, and consequently is forever getting involved with she has no actual interest in. She rents a run down old house in the worst neighborhood in town. The only reason she got into the house is because the church helped her out. My sister and I have been helping her with rent for years now. This is getting a little rambly, so I’ll wrap it up. I feel the need to clarify, I do not blame all my mom’s problems on her time as a stripper. But I see it as a huge factor in a long line of objectifying, mentally damaging events that has contributed to her current situation. Additionally, it didn’t give me a great perception of women to know that mom’s only worth in the world was her sexuality.” (Source)
It’s Fine, As Long As No One Talks About It.
“My friend’s mom was a porn star in the late 90’s. He would beat the sh*t out of you if you ever mentioned anything about it.” (Source)
Hard To Process.
“My mom worked in porn for a while and told me about it when I was 13 years old. It was a little weird knowing that my mom did that for such a long time and I did worry for quite a while that one of my friends or someone else I know might come across a video or pictures of hers. I don’t think negatively of her for doing it, although I was curious as to why she chose to do it and how the experience was and she’s explained it to me in full. She and I have always had a very close and open relationship, so her having been in porn isn’t any sort of issue, although, I’m not sure how I’d feel about it if she was still doing it…that would be kind of weird.” (Source)
It Can Open To A Life Of Luxury.
“I’m not a child of a porn star, but my cousin is Lily Love haha. It was weird when I first found out, but looking back at it.. her dad (my uncle) is really controlling and sheltering, so I could see how she ended up turning to it. It’s weird talking to her casually knowing in the back of my mind she’s doing porn. But, she’s constantly flying all over the world and going to events, parties, new cities. So seeing all of it on Facebook is kinda cool. I was teased about it for about a week by some close friends before it dropped off the radar. No, I have not jerked off to my cousin. Despite living in Alabama, that would just straight up weird me out. (Source)
Not Everyone Will Accept It.
“Growing up my stepfather was in porn. In the late 60’s and early 70’s he owned theaters and production companies and then in the late 70’s and early 80’s he made the move to betamax and then to vhs, the theaters closed and became video stores. He was ultra wealthy. He was super flashy and had a fleet of exotic vehicles, drivers, bodyguards, the works. He lived in an exclusive community and had hundreds of millions of dollars but still wasn’t quite accepted. The kids told everyone he was in publishing. They were very embarrassed and it was an exploitative position he was in.” (Source)
There’s Nothing Wrong With It.
I’ve a friend who was in the adult film industry for years. She has two daughters, 20 and 18. Both are well-adjusted, bright young women. Their mom (my friend), is wicked smart and working on her Masters Degree. She was smart and saved the money, so they live fairly well, travel often, and all three of them have their college educations in the bank. Good family.” (Source)
It’s Normal, To An Extent.
“I have a friend in school who’s dad directs porn. I tease him all the time about it, and kids go up to him jokingly asking if his dad is willing to hire more people. He doesn’t seem to mind, but I don’t think he wants the entire world to know about it either.” (Source)
Not Following In The Family Biz.
“My friend/co-worker’s family are the people that started and run Vivid Entertainment. His Uncle was the founder, and his mom is the head of production. He basically told me that nothing really was that out of the ordinary growing up, he definitely knew more than most at an earlier age. He said everyone caught on around middle school and he became “The Porn Kid”. Surprisingly though, he doesn’t work in porn nowadays. We do work in TV, but he hasn’t gone into the family business once in his life. He always talks about how he has nothing against it, but he just never saw himself working in the industry. (Source)
An Unwanted Reputation.
“In elementary school, our class was assigned a teacher’s assistant. Two weeks later, some kid found her on a porn website and emailed the link to everyone. The whole school knew. Fast forward a few years while working at Tim Hortons, I had to train her daughter. I asked her how it feels to be the daughter of someone who does porn and she didn’t say much. Obviously she’s a little embarrassed but when she was in high school, she said everyone knew. She got teased a lot and others just automatically assumed she was an easy slut.” (Source)
It Can Be Hard To Handle.
“My ex boyfriend in middle school through high school had a mom who was a porn star. She lived in CA while we lived in another state. He loved his mom but never really saw her. He got made fun of regularly by friends and complete strangers in the hallways. Many times I’ve had to comfort him while he cried. I felt so bad. She’s no longer in porn though. Her name was Harley Rain, or something like that.” (Source)
Probably Not The Best Way To Break The News.
“I’m not the child of a porn star, but my friend is! One time she, our mutual friend and I were sitting in her living room when her mom walks in asking us if we wanted drinks. Now our mutual friend didn’t know her mom was a porn star… til’ that moment, as soon as her mom left, our buddy turns to her and says “I’m not gonna lie, I’ve seen your mom shove a cucumber up her snatch” she was sooo embarrassed.” (Source)
“I used to live in a poorer neighborhood and one of my friend’s mom used to host a daily cam show to make money for the family. She was really open about it and made a lot of money on it. He never really cared nor was he embarrassed by his mom, but he obviously got mocked at school for it. Kids even made accounts and requested things from his mom via cam, but he would just thank them for the extra cash. The kid could never be fazed.” (Source)
A Horrifying Surprise.
“Brother in laws grandma died a few years back. They were going through her things. Sorting for good will. Finds film reels. Has them transferred onto CD’s. Gets family together to watch them. Nostalgic purposes. Turns out to be hours of hardcore porn. Looks of horror were apparently ensued. Not even her husband knew about her career.” (Source)